Your swagger and your bearing....

Dames Nation, we couldn't help but notice the just right clothes you're all wearing.
In part, this is because, when we imagine you, we correctly see you all asmaximally dapper

But it's also because we've had "Ring of Keys" from the musical Fun Home stuck in our heads since 11-year-old (!!!!!!) Sydney Lucas performed it this Sunday at the Tony Awards. It's a stupidly great performance and you owe it to yourself to watch it over and over and over. Based on the graphic memoir by Alison Bechdel, the show (which took home 5 Tonys-- Best Musical,  Best Book of a Musical, Best Original Score, Best Direction of a Musical, and Best Leading Actor in a Musical) made history by being the first ever all-female writing team to win a Tony.

As you watch Small Alison's face light up with joy and recognition the first time she sees a woman she can describe as "handsome," it's impossible to deny (1) that this is exactly the kind of moment musical theater was designed to capture and (2) that it's a story no mainstream Broadway musical has ever tried to tell before. As Lisa Kron, the play's author, said while accepting the Tony for Best Book of a Musical: "We all live in this big house and we've all been sitting in the same one or two main rooms and thinking that this was the whole house. And this season, some lights got turned on in other rooms."  Looking at Sydney playing Alison on that stage-- it makes you want to turn on every light in every house. Because how many more songs THIS necessary are just out there, waiting to be written, waiting to be sung?

Can you feel our hearts saying hi, Dames Nation?


Advice Corner
Darling reader Sophie (not Dame Sophie!) asks,

Favorite ladies:

I'm leaving my toxic job in 6 weeks, but because of professionalism and health insurance, I have to suck it up until then. What movies/tv/culture can help me get the catharsis of a big "fuck you!" without actually burning bridges?

Dear Not Dame Sophie,

This is a GREAT question, and we hope we’re in time to answer it helpfully. Having survived and left a toxic workplace, Dame Sophie empathizes deeply with you and we both congratulate you on your upcoming escape to what we hope is a way healthier and more rewarding situation.

Let’s dive right in!
If you want to put your fist in the air and bang your head, we recommend…

  • SO LONG, SUCKERS! -- a playlist we made just for you! We stocked it with anthems and break-up songs (since what is leaving a bad job behind but a break-up?). Happy furious listening! 

If you want to talk back to your TV, hollering “Yeah, you said it!”, we suggest…

  • 9 to 5: Dolly. Lily. Jane. Start here, no matter what.

  • Norma Rae

  • Working Girl

  • The Office (Either version.)

  • And, although its connection to your situation is not as obvious, Dame Margaret heartily recommends RuPaul's Drag Race ( which can be found streaming on Amazon Prime and Hulu+). It gives you a satisfying dose of epic reality TV throwdowns, but conducted amongst a people (drag queens) who earnestly conceive of SICK BURNS as high art. Like, every season, there's a challenge where the contestants must come up with the funniest, most cutting insults they can about one another. It's a very satisfying way to get a contact high for witty aggression. All the season are great, but if you're looking for a specific recommendation, start with Season 6, as Bianca Del Rio is a queen ANY employee on their way out would do well to emulate:

HOPEFULLY this is enough to get you started!! May these last 6 weeks fly by with inhuman speed. Please feel free to email us all the amazing "reads" of your coworkers that, for reasons of professionalism, you can never share publicly. Here at the Bossy Aerie, the library is always open, and our lips are permanently sealed. 

XOXO,
Dames Margaret and Sophie 


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