Thank you for providing both lighthearted and heavy-hearted/screaming-hearted content today! I'm too worked up at the moment to engage with the perfumery, but I appreciate that it's there. I will admit I opened the dick-joke link, because Our Flag Means Death is an unfailing bright spot in this darkest timeline.
I often hear people say that becoming a parent made them more pro-choice; my infertility has made me even more vehemently pro-choice, and I was pretty militant about it before! I wish, more than anything, that every person could have perfect autonomy in their reproductive choices, and that every person could have the reproductive outcomes they want. Choosing to terminate an unwanted, traumatic, dangerous, or non-viable pregnancy is absolutely part of that.
I'm an especially odd duck, with my reproductive history. I went through a spate of infertility in my 20s, during a doomed (for other, non-infertility-related reasons) first marriage (and boy HOWDY am I glad I did not have a baby with that person). After that ended, I became miraculously pregnant by someone I was seeing seriously, and I had an abortion. I barely mourned at the time, and I feel not one iota of regret -- it was absolutely the right choice for me, for my then-partner, and for the innocent life that would have been brought into a really not-great parenting situation. Now that I have gone through many more years of heartbreaking infertility while married to someone I would have loved to have a child with, and with menopause knocking at the gates, I still do not regret that abortion, at all.
Solidarity to you in the US who are directly in this line of fire. I am sick with rage on your behalf. I've been throwing some of my moneys at the various funds that are doing the very good work to make sure pregnant people who want or need an abortion can get the healthcare they need. And I will fight tooth and claw if this monstrous legislation looks like it might have any kind of political legs here in Canada. Fight the good fight. Grind the bastards down.
After having donated to the abortion funds of my choice, I came here to talk fragrance! Just a reminder that you CAN get the expensive stuff if you go with decants. I like The Perfumed Court but there are others out there where you can pay less for getting smaller sizes of The Real Thing. Definitely try all reasonably priced alternatives because we of Dames nation know that in many circumstances, lightly trailing a heavenly scent adds interest to our already powerful intellect.
Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and Sex Education both have episodes with abortion where there is very little sensationalizing and no regrets. There’s a play called My Romantic History where the whole point of the beat is not that she’s getting an abortion - she makes the decision with no angst - but that the person who impregnated her decides to wait in the waiting room for her. Worth noting that both Sex Education and My Romantic History are set in the UK.
Thank you for providing both lighthearted and heavy-hearted/screaming-hearted content today! I'm too worked up at the moment to engage with the perfumery, but I appreciate that it's there. I will admit I opened the dick-joke link, because Our Flag Means Death is an unfailing bright spot in this darkest timeline.
I often hear people say that becoming a parent made them more pro-choice; my infertility has made me even more vehemently pro-choice, and I was pretty militant about it before! I wish, more than anything, that every person could have perfect autonomy in their reproductive choices, and that every person could have the reproductive outcomes they want. Choosing to terminate an unwanted, traumatic, dangerous, or non-viable pregnancy is absolutely part of that.
I'm an especially odd duck, with my reproductive history. I went through a spate of infertility in my 20s, during a doomed (for other, non-infertility-related reasons) first marriage (and boy HOWDY am I glad I did not have a baby with that person). After that ended, I became miraculously pregnant by someone I was seeing seriously, and I had an abortion. I barely mourned at the time, and I feel not one iota of regret -- it was absolutely the right choice for me, for my then-partner, and for the innocent life that would have been brought into a really not-great parenting situation. Now that I have gone through many more years of heartbreaking infertility while married to someone I would have loved to have a child with, and with menopause knocking at the gates, I still do not regret that abortion, at all.
Solidarity to you in the US who are directly in this line of fire. I am sick with rage on your behalf. I've been throwing some of my moneys at the various funds that are doing the very good work to make sure pregnant people who want or need an abortion can get the healthcare they need. And I will fight tooth and claw if this monstrous legislation looks like it might have any kind of political legs here in Canada. Fight the good fight. Grind the bastards down.
After having donated to the abortion funds of my choice, I came here to talk fragrance! Just a reminder that you CAN get the expensive stuff if you go with decants. I like The Perfumed Court but there are others out there where you can pay less for getting smaller sizes of The Real Thing. Definitely try all reasonably priced alternatives because we of Dames nation know that in many circumstances, lightly trailing a heavenly scent adds interest to our already powerful intellect.
Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and Sex Education both have episodes with abortion where there is very little sensationalizing and no regrets. There’s a play called My Romantic History where the whole point of the beat is not that she’s getting an abortion - she makes the decision with no angst - but that the person who impregnated her decides to wait in the waiting room for her. Worth noting that both Sex Education and My Romantic History are set in the UK.